Thursday, August 14, 2008 || 11:57 AM
What does a daughter do????
They say 16 is a sweet and tender age, but is sweet and tender about someone cloaked in shame and veiled in resentment. When the daughters in our families are tormented by the men who are meant to be their protectors, where do they go? Who do they grow up to be? Mothers? Maids? Mistresses? Confused in sexuality? Angry at the world and everything it represents?
What does a girl do, if she can't turn to her mother, aunt or older sister? No body believes her for only one reason, for believing it would mean accepting it, finding the strength within them to confront their men, the abusers of their daughters and then in the end abandon the relationship they have been continuing.
Women when they quit their financial responsibilities and pick up the role of full-time care providers, there needs to be someone who would support them in all aspects of their existence. The society is defunct because the members comprising the society at unable to support themselves. They are lost in the values and have no faith. That is how the law system comes up and but then everything is in the eyes of the beholder, the abuser, the abused, the judge, the $$$ to have valuable and qualified representation. If everything goes right then, the lawyer goes home with his earnings to his family. The abuser is sentenced to his fate as deemed fit by law, the victim returns home to her family of abusers. Her asset becomes her liability. Her beauty, her youth are both to her disadvantage.
Now that the world "knows" of her woe, she is more embarrassed by her plight. Every woman looks at her with envy and pity at the same time. They envy her for her ability to arouse a man, they pity her for her current state and they despise her for being the instrument of the fall of a "man", someone who could have supported a family financially. Men will be men and boys will be boys are their attitude. And girls must be "shushed" and women must remain in debt to their men for the privilege of not having to take up prostitution for a living.
But is their more dignity in demanding your worth after a service or is it more respectful to serve without asking for anything.
When does this end? Where does it lead one to? A dysfunctional society cannot birth healthy citizens. Unhealthy citizens cannot create a healthy society. This is a vicious circle that must be broken, and it begins with the individual who finds the strength within them to stand up for their truth, what is right for themselves and the world of now and the future.
Our present is based on the past, true. So shouldn't we work on our present and base our future on our present? Now how does this happen. It is only when we dig deep down within ourselves, keep our head high and our chin up and find the strength from within. When the courage which is within and we are so sure of it, begins to play peek-a-boo with us, we pray, meditate and ask for God to show us a sign, in whatever form shape of fashion God deems fit. At times, it is a butterfly, a song, a book, a stray smile, a fleeting glance , a phone call from a friend or the call of a teacher. We know that all these signs are from God asking us to reach out and receive from God his grace and guidance through his gift in the form of his instrument that he sent our way.
My friend came to me, and without asking, shared his story and healed me through his journey. Today I know why do daughters experience their trials and endure their protectors who dwell in their own fears and wants, and can't give for they are in need. I was being prepared so I may share his sister's story with no ego or attachments. I had to free myself so I could receive her offering to the world through her brother and put the pieces together in a story for the world.
It is not just a story of a brother and sister, it is a story through which mankind learn to acknowledge the fables in scriptures that our prophets used to teach us simple lessons. It is a story in which people learn to accept the fact that their is an expiration dat eon how long a grudge may be born on their parent or abuser or any aspect of their past. It is a story in which women recognize sisterhood in other women. It is a story through which men free themselves in the knowledge of the strength of their women. Instead of suppressing women and crushing their beauty and wisdom to serve their own weak egos, let them know in the strength of their women lies their strength, in the wisdom and grace of their women lies the path to their heaven.
.... May peace be upon us all!....
August 14th 2008